Mariana was known for always being the person willing to help. If someone needed a favor, she was the first to volunteer. If her husband preferred listening to classical music, she convinced herself that it was what she wanted too. If her friends suggested something that didn’t align with her desires, she went along, persuading herself it was for the best. Her life revolved around pleasing others, and she told herself she was happy that way.
The Hidden Fear Behind Small Choices
Mariana constantly adapted her desires to please others and avoid conflict. She believed she was being generous and supportive, catering to others' needs and giving herself entirely in relationships. However, what she didn’t realize was that her actions, while appearing altruistic, were actually masking a deep fear of being seen as inconvenient or of losing the love and friendship of those around her.
She was so preoccupied with pleasing others that she didn’t notice she was erasing herself, prioritizing their needs over her own. This relentless quest for approval and acceptance stemmed from an unconscious fear that, if she wasn’t always helpful, agreeable, or attentive, people might reject her. By assuming the role of "the one who always helps," she distanced herself from her true essence, acting not out of authenticity but to maintain an image of generosity that others would accept and love.
This hidden fear of rejection and losing others' affection blinded Mariana to the real motivations behind her actions. She thought she was just being empathetic, but in truth, she was trying to control how others perceived her to ensure they would love and value her.
This dynamic intensified when her best friend asked for help organizing a party. Mariana was thrilled: she bought decorations, planned the menu, and stayed up late nights leading up to the event to ensure everything would be perfect. Deep down, she hoped her friend would recognize how dedicated she was and appreciate her effort.
But after the party, Mariana felt something strange. Her friend thanked her, of course, but briefly, before continuing to chat with other guests. Mariana was hurt.
Doesn’t she see everything I did for her? she thought.
Visibly frustrated and upset by her friend’s reaction, Mariana reflected on how much effort she had poured into planning the party. She had envisioned her friend being overjoyed and expressing heartfelt gratitude. Instead, the brief acknowledgment left her feeling invisible.
Over the following days, Mariana found herself irritated but tried to suppress the emotions. At times, she wondered, “How could she not notice how much I dedicated myself? Didn’t she see the effort I made to make everything perfect?” A quiet, constant anger began to build within her. These emotions were present and intense, yet Mariana wasn’t entirely aware of their root cause. She only knew she felt hurt and unseen.
She carried on with her routine, avoiding deep reflection on her emotions. Mariana blamed herself, trying to convince herself she was overreacting, or at times chalking up her friend’s behavior to “immaturity.” Instead of confronting her internal pain, she withdrew, letting the days pass without addressing the lingering discomfort—like a small wound she preferred to ignore.
A Turning Point
Weeks later, while scrolling through social media, Mariana stumbled across a quote that seemed to speak directly to her:
We can only give what we have.
The words struck a chord. She paused, reread the sentence, and felt a lump in her throat.
What have I been giving to others to receive what I’m getting back? she wondered.
For the first time, she began asking herself, without haste or pressure:
Why did I get so upset about this? Why did her reaction bother me so much?
She started to realize that what hurt her wasn’t just her friend’s lack of appreciation, but the fact that she didn’t feel seen or valued. Simultaneously, she questioned:
Am I giving myself the value I expect from others?
The quote seemed to unlock something within her. Mariana understood that, although she believed she was helping out of the goodness of her heart, there was a silent expectation behind her actions: to be noticed, recognized, and, in some way, repaid. This realization, though uncomfortable, opened a door for her to see something she had never considered before.
The Path to Self-Discovery
It marked the beginning of a deep process of reflection and self-awareness that would forever change how she viewed her relationships—and herself.
Mariana finally understood: her frustration wasn’t just about the lack of gratitude, but about the fact that, behind her generosity and dedication, there was a hidden need to receive something in return. And this realization led her to confront a deeper truth: up until that point, she had been driven by a profound fear of not being enough, of not being seen, and, most importantly, of not being loved enough by those around her.
This was the start of a genuine journey of self-reflection. She came to see that her tendency to seek external approval stemmed from a place of insecurity and a lack of self-love. For the first time, she acknowledged that even her seemingly selfless acts were motivated by an unconscious desire to feel valued and loved. From that moment on, Mariana stood at the threshold of a new awareness, where self-knowledge began to flourish, shedding light on truths she had not been ready to face before.
The Transformation
From that moment on, Mariana began to change. Instead of acting automatically, she started asking herself questions before making decisions:
Am I doing this because I truly want to, or because I'm afraid of displeasing others?
If the other person doesn’t react as I expect, will I still be okay with my choice?
She started saying “no” more often. It wasn’t easy at first; she felt guilt and fear of disappointing others. But over time, she realized her relationships didn’t fall apart because of it. On the contrary, some even grew stronger.
When she organized a party again, this time for a group of friends, she did it because she genuinely wanted to. She chose details that made her happy without worrying about pleasing everyone. And in the end, she felt a different kind of lightness. For the first time, she realized she didn’t need external recognition to feel good.
The New Mariana
Mariana began to prioritize her own desires and wishes. She understood that genuine love starts from within and that, to love others in a healthy way, she first needed to love herself. She realized that true balance isn’t about pleasing everyone but about staying true to herself.
And so, Mariana freed herself from the burden of seeking acceptance through pleasing others. She learned that her happiness didn’t depend on external validation but on the love and respect she cultivated for herself. This change transformed not only her relationships but also how she lived her life.
Reflections on Mariana’s Story
Mariana’s story isn’t just about an isolated episode of frustration. It reveals emotional and behavioral dynamics that often go unnoticed in our daily lives but profoundly impact the way we live. Here are some key points that this narrative brings to light:
The automatic mode and lack of self-awareness
How many times do we live through situations like Mariana’s without ever pausing to reflect?
Small pains, resentments, or frustrations accumulate in our lives because we haven’t learned to ask ourselves the right questions. Instead of asking, “Why did this bother me so much?” or “What can this situation teach me about myself?” we stay on autopilot, distracted by our routines. This automatic mode prevents us from truly understanding what we feel and, consequently, from pursuing real growth. In this way, we miss out on opportunities for transformation that could change how we handle our emotions, relationships, and ultimately, our lives.
External validation and the risk of perpetuating negative patterns
When Mariana felt hurt by her friend, she could have shared her pain with someone else, seeking support. But imagine the risk of such a conversation. Often, when we vent, we receive validations that reinforce our distorted perspective. If Mariana had said, “My friend was ungrateful and treated me poorly,” the other person might have responded, “Wow, that’s so inconsiderate! You’re right to feel that way!” This would have validated Mariana’s victim mindset, preventing her from seeing that the problem wasn’t with her friend but with her own expectation of recognition. External validation can perpetuate a toxic cycle where we avoid taking responsibility for our feelings and continue blaming others.
People as mirrors of our wounds
What if Mariana’s friend wasn’t just someone who “failed”? What if she was there, at that moment, to play an essential role in Mariana’s journey?
Often, people come into our lives to show us what we need to heal within ourselves. Moments of discomfort, frustration, or even hurt are actually invitations for self-awareness. These people aren’t enemies; they’re disguised teachers helping us see hidden wounds. However, instead of being grateful for this growth opportunity, many react with anger or engage in gossip, arguments, or even extreme actions like sending “negative energy” to the other person. This is a missed opportunity to learn and evolve.
The consequences of ignoring our emotions
In the story, we saw how Mariana tried to carry on with her routine, ignoring her discomfort. But emotions don’t simply disappear because we choose not to face them. On the contrary, they linger like latent wounds, waiting for an opportunity to resurface. This accumulation of unresolved emotions can have physical and energetic consequences. Science already acknowledges the link between chronic emotional states and illness. Moreover, when we ignore our pain, we vibrate at a frequency of lack and dissatisfaction, which prevents us from attracting what we truly desire.
The secret to abundance and prosperity
Finally, there is a clear connection between how we feel internally and what we manifest externally. Abundance and prosperity aren’t just material concepts; they start within us, with how we nurture our thoughts and emotions. When we carry resentments, frustrations, or unresolved expectations, we vibrate at frequencies that are incompatible with what we want to attract. Quantum physics teaches us that what we emit into the universe comes back to us. If we want abundance, we must begin vibrating at that energy level by taking care of our emotions, healing our wounds, and choosing to offer our best to the world.
Conclusion
Mariana’s story shows us that emotions are more than mere reactions to what happens around us. They are portals to self-awareness, opportunities to understand ourselves, and to transform how we live.
When we take the time to reflect on our pain, assume responsibility for our feelings, and recognize the role that people and situations play in our growth, we take an important step toward a more fulfilling, abundant, and conscious life. After all, the true secret to happiness and prosperity lies in our ability to look inward and heal ourselves.
The High Priestess and the Power of Inner Silence
The archetype of the High Priestess perfectly illustrates the turning point in Mariana's story. Like the High Priestess, Mariana needed to withdraw from external distractions and dive into her own consciousness to understand what was truly happening within her. The High Priestess teaches us that the answers are not in others but within ourselves.
Instead of seeking validation or rushing to judgment, Mariana began to listen to her intuition. Through the energy of the High Priestess, she realized that the friend who hurt her was, in fact, a mirror of her own wounds. The High Priestess reveals that every emotion, no matter how uncomfortable, carries a valuable lesson.
This card also reminds us of the importance of respecting the timing of things. Mariana needed weeks to calm down and reflect. The High Priestess symbolizes this incubation period, where deeper truths emerge when we are ready to receive them.
Thus, we can say that Mariana accessed the wisdom of the High Priestess by allowing herself to feel, reflect, and transform her pain into learning. After all, true power lies in finding within ourselves the answers we seek in the world.
Human Misery?
We live in a world where most people remain trapped in a kind of matrix—a superficial reality that perpetuates pain and disconnection. This state of human misery is not caused by a lack of material resources but by the inability to consciously handle one’s emotions.
When we fail to process our emotions properly, we become part of a vicious cycle, spreading hurt, frustration, and resentment into the world around us. These dense energies multiply, making the collective environment even heavier. Imagine billions of people continuously spreading unresolved emotions. It’s no wonder the world feels so chaotic and out of harmony.
This cycle can be broken, and the key lies in something that seems so simple yet is so rarely practiced: self-awareness. Understanding, embracing, and transforming our emotions is not only the path to personal growth but also the only way to create conditions for the much-desired prosperity and abundance. After all, higher vibrations—of gratitude, love, and harmony—are fertile ground for all good things to flourish in our lives.
The Impact of a Lack of Awareness
When someone fails to process their emotions properly, they react automatically, spreading their pain in various ways. This can manifest through words, actions, or even subtle vibrations that are sensed by those around them. Such propagation contributes to a more fragmented and conflict-ridden world.
What’s even more concerning is how this individual disconnection reflects on the collective. Each of us carries a share of responsibility for the world’s current state. The "misery" we see externally is often a reflection of what we ignore within ourselves.
The Awakening of Consciousness
Self-awareness is the 🔑 key to breaking this cycle. When we begin to question ourselves, understand the meaning behind our emotions, and seek to heal our inner wounds, we raise our vibration and transform not only our reality but also the environment around us.
This transformation requires effort. It takes courage to face our shadows and honesty to admit our behavioral patterns. But by doing so, we create space for true prosperity and abundance, which stem not merely from external achievements but from an internal state of peace and wholeness.
The Responsibility of the Awakened
Reaching this inner enlightenment is not the end of the journey but the beginning of a new responsibility. Those who awaken to this consciousness realize that personal evolution is intrinsically linked to contributing to the whole. Helping others see their shadows and guiding them toward self-awareness is a way to expand this light into the collective.
However, it’s important to remember that helping is not about imposing. It is an act of compassion and patience, acknowledging that each person has their own time and process.
Final Reflections
💫 Prosperity begins within. Unresolved emotions create energetic blockages. Processing them is the first step to attracting abundance.
💫 Every emotion carries a lesson. Pain is a powerful teacher if we are willing to learn from it.
💫 The collective reflects the individual. By transforming our emotions, we contribute to raising collective consciousness.
💫 We are interdependent. Those who challenge or "hurt" us often play the role of showing us the wounds we need to heal.
💫 In a world so connected yet so fragmented, choosing to live with depth and intention is a revolutionary act. It’s a path that requires effort but rewards us with true abundance: a free spirit, aligned with the universe, and at peace with itself.
💫 Human misery is ultimately a reflection of a lack of awareness. But it is also an invitation—a call for each of us to take responsibility for our share and help create a more harmonious world.
If what I shared resonated with you, share it with someone you love—this message might make a difference in their life too.
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